Good Morning, God!
My wonderful husband Kit and I have been married just a few days shy of 55 years — but we still do bicker.
I suppose we sort of enjoy mild disagreements.
However on several holiday trips I occasionally have NOT enjoyed my post of Official Navigator! I do not wish to reconstruct various past traumas. But, I will say that when I said, holding the map, turn right, Kit would sometimes say . . . “I don’t think so” and turn left.
He will minimize this, God. But You know what it was like for me.
I, however, take full responsibility for not finding The Simple Solution years earlier! I blush to confess it, but it was only last year that I learned to turn on the Google Map Gal. She SPEAKS! She gives clear and consistent directions. And, Kit trusts her!
When we fail to follow her instructions, she does not get upset, as I did. She simply recalculates and gives us new directions. She is a paragon! She is a Navigator without equal! She is that most precious of resources — a Trusted and Neutral Voice.
I suppose marriage counselors might play the same role . . . but Kit and I have found that having trusted friends over for breakfast every week plays much the same role. Trusted friends who love both of us — while seeing us as we are. Friends who cope with similar gender gaps and with a variety of differing aptitudes and attitudes.
Let’s face it God . . . humans differ. Kit is a Lark, Bat and Ant. I am (or mostly was) a Night Owl, Moth and Grasshopper. We have both adjusted and we have both learned to accept. Let me rephrase that God: We are still adjusting and accepting — present tense. And we are still laughing!