Easter 2019

The Joy of flowers…the JOY of beauty

Good Day, God!

I am THANKFUL . . . even though tired. Actually, I am thankful for the reasons that have made me tired. Families are so incredible precious. I was chatting with a friend and it came to me that all families are imperfect for a reason. It is in them that we learn what love really is. The tough gutty love of having to forgive others and having to forgive ourselves.

And mostly it helps bring us to the reality of being loved as we are . . . imperfect beings! I know, God, that we human beings learn by making mistakes. It takes a lot of falling down before we learn to walk. Then it came to me . . . since we are made in Your image. Do You make mistakes? Do You learn as You go? WOW! Even to dare to ask the question it a bit unnerving.

But, it does strike me that I am in a LEARN AS YOU GO Universe. So, I am pondering my question. Actually, maybe I am using the wrong word when I talk about “Mistakes”. Maybe they are better seen as ONGOING ATTEMPTS — AS STRIVINGS. I like that!

This morning on our church bulletin was a quote from Father Rohr: Jesus didn’t come to change God’s mind about us . . . but to change our minds about God. I like that! Thank You for Easter and all it brings to me in Hope and Love.

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Silent Saturday

after the Good Friday service

Good Morning, God!

After what seems like a very long time . . . I am back . . . daring to write again. I was stopped by a day in which four or five folks started following me. Yikes! This really was a public place. Not just my private meanderings.

That is something we all forget, isn’t it? That we ourselves, our lives, our words and our thoughts even, have a wider effect. And, so when I take myself to a church service . . . or to Centering Prayer as I am this morning . . . I am WANTING Your help. Knowing I need help . . . knowing that being human is a big and complex deal.

I remember YEARS ago, complaining to You that the human brain was too thin to deal with my powerful reptilian brain. Sigh. I do have upwellings of my deeper selves. But, they have ENERGY and STRENGTH in them! They are MY RESPONSIBILITY to manage . . . to love and care for. Double sigh!

So, today, Silent Saturday, — that profound gap between the Death of Jesus and the Resurrection of Jesus — seems like a very good time to resume our conversation. I think it was Father Keating who said, “Silence is God’s first language. All else is a poor translation.”

Ah, help me to be silent, too. And to listen with my heart.

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Being and Doing

Image of an electron . . . a spherical shell

Good Evening, God!

My spiritual director has been working with me on the importance of Being. This is because I am an extrovert and greatly addicted to Doing. Doing, I understand. Being was a mystery.

It is, of course, still a mystery! But now I have an image of what it is. In the science I grew up in — and electron was a busy creature — endlessly spinning around the center. But, as near as I understand it — electrons now inhabit a spherical shell of “energy”. They are not so much “doing” as “being”.

My old image of busy electrons

My understanding is probably totally wrong. But, it has been incredibly useful for me. When I do my Centering Prayer and sit quietly — doing nothing other than welcoming You in — I can “see” myself refreshing my spherical shell of Being.

Sometimes I even see my “colors” changing — all in my imagination, of course. But, still, a JOY!

 

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Rebuilding Lives!

Jan Rader, Fire Chief Huntington, West Virginia

Good Evening, God!

Sometimes, I hear something so clearly analyzed and thought out that it takes my breath away! That’s how I responded to Jan Rader’s TED talk on “In the opioid crisis, here’s what it take to save a life.” Basically, she observed that just resuscitating someone is not enough. Even after being resuscitated for the 3rd or 4th time the person still doesn’t know they have a problem! Addicts just don’t know they have a problem.

In addition, the drug that saves them makes them feel horrible. It isn’t a great time to talk sense to them. So, they created a Quick Response Team (QRT) composed of a paramedic, police officer, someone in the recovery community and someone in the faith community. They go and visit those who have overdosed within 72 hours. And right now around 30% of the folks accept some kind of help.

They also created a free-standing specialty clinic – PROACT – for assessment by an addiction specialist. First responders can take or refer patients there who do not want to go to a hospital. This helps the overloaded hospitals, too.

But what moved me the most is that they have started a first responders self-care program. If you are seeing 5 young people die every month . . . many of them classmates and friends . . . you need help! So, now they have yoga in the firehouses and on-duty massages. And they have off-duty programs like pottery and cooking classes.

Bottom line? Overdoses are down 40%. Overdose deaths are down 50%. As she said, “This epidemic is far from over. But each and every one of us has a part to play in this epidemic. Just by listening and being kind to somebody, you have the ability to make a difference in their lives.”


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Thoughts beyond Words

Good Evening, God!

I’ve been listening to this book . . . slowly ( I’m now on Chapter Three) . . . as the ideas don’t fit easily or quickly into my head. . Thinking of You as a VERB instead of a NOUN is a big change.  It seems that Aristotle considered Nouns as on the top of the hierarchy.  Nouns had substance.  And, I guess, tended to have an objective reality.  That led us to seeing you as A Big Bearded White Man.  Looking back I can see that gave rise to a lot of problems that are still with us.  Mind you, I would hope other cultures don’t picture You as white . . . but, still definitely a human male.

This mental shift to relating to You as a VERB is HUGE.  You are not so much LOVE (a noun) as LOVING (a verb).  I’m smiling, God.  As I was telling my spiritual director, I am realizing how little I know.  This hit me a few weeks ago when I thought after a time of Centering “That was poor!” Immediately, it was made clear to me that I am not able to judge or evaluate a time of Centering.  And, in truth, how could I as I have no idea of what exactly is happening while I center.  I do try though. Astot first I used male words like repair, rewire, reconstruct.  But, now I’m thinking it’s more like nourishing and nurturing.

But, these are only words.  And words are appallingly inadequate.  Except when they are used to tell stories!  I love the stories that Jesus told.  Stories can be revisited and see from so many different angles. And stories stay with me . . . in ways that abstractions don’t. Ah!  Perhaps this is why You came in person . . . enfleshing Yourself . . . becoming a Story of Loving and Forgiving.

 

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Empathy: A Key

Good Evening, God!

I was idly flipping through this book when I was stopped by his use of EMPATHY.  It seemed that was a key to one of the best Venture Capitalists in Silicon Valley.  I had thought of “empathy” as a virtue . . . a stand-alone sort of character quality.  I’d surely never thought of it as being essential to successful Venture Capitalists!  Or to generals, spies, etc.!

Our secular culture tends to ignore or deny the practical benefits of being able to put ourselves in other people’s shoes, minds and hearts.  Yikes!  I was doing it too.

Apparently, empathy allows us to understand a much wider array of people and thus learn more.  And updating our information . . . learning and growing and adapting . . . is essential. As Laurence Gonzales said. “Some people update their [mental] models better than others. They are called survivors.”

Hmm.  One last point — from a book FULL of them — was about the different “success rates” of Foxes vs Hedgehogs. Hedgehogs know ONE area very well.  Foxes know a lot of areas.  And when asked to make predictions on what would happen in five years — the foxes were way out in front and the hedgehogs way behind.  The foxes were widely interested in the world around them. They updated their understandings frequently. And they were skeptical of one big answer.

I can understand curiosity as useful.  But empathy — the ability to feel with other quite different people — that was a huge surprise.  But, then isn’t empathy intertwined with love?  And so as You are Love . . .it shouldn’t surprise me that love would be a useful virtue . . . not just “spiritual”.

 

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Feeling a bit bleak

Good Evening, God!

I’m tired.  After a great night’s sleep on Thanksgiving I was up and down most of last night.  And I am feeling a bit bleak.  So this photo fits my mood perfectly.  The view is of the beautiful blue ocean . . . but it is seen through the shadows of a Lauhala tree.   Sigh.  This tree was planted as a memorial for a friend’s son.  Somehow, God, my normal UP mood is down.

It feels like the wonderful rest I’ve had is giving my Body and Heart a chance to “Clean Up” and “Clean Out”. Bringing up worries and fears for the future — up to the surface so they can be brought to You. This feels like a good thing. It’s kind of like cleaning out cabinets and closets.

Acknowledging this is hard for me.  I’m an enneagram Seven.  I’d rather turn away and make a joke.  But that is not showing backbone!  I need backbone. And that means consistently working on developing discipline . . . so now I will go do my stretches and lift my 5 pound weights.  And keep track on my iWatch.

I’m back.  I am puffing a little but I’m already feeling less bleak . . .

 

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