Good Evening, God
A dear friend of mine said that she really didn’t understand the analogy of having a Wife App. And I realized that YES! It must seem really strange to a lot of folks. And that pushed me into pondering just why I was so delighted by it.
First of all, relationships are incredibly complex and so very organic. The longer the relationship, the more the growth of habitual patterns of behavior. “Sponse” and response have been practiced and refined — if not perfected. And when we are IN the relationship we are very much like fish in water. Oblivious to it. And certainly without the idea of altering the environment.
Secondly, long-term relationships are precious. They have a compounded value. And therefore, one is reluctant to “look” at them. More so for a dearly beloved husband. Mostly, one is thankful!
However, when realities change there are stressors applied to the relationship. How do we respond positively? For me, recasting much of my “behavior” as the result of a Wife App gave me a much needed sense of efficacy. Apps are created. They can be adjusted and reset. Indeed, the very concept of having a control spot called Settings was exciting.
Why? Perhaps, because it puts the focus on me and my part in maintaining the health of the relationship. And with that focus comes both an enhanced sense of responsibility and a sense of opportunities waiting to be created.
Then, upon discovering my Wife App, I have become aware that I have other Apps. I have a Self-Care App. . . which right now is suggesting that perhaps it would be a good investment of time to list and diagram as many of my apps as I can find.
All in all, I am grateful for an additional way of “seeing”.