Good Day, God!
I have yet to read the book I just bought on Micro-Resilience by Bonnie St. John. I thought it would be fun to ponder what I have learned so far about life and resilience. One huge conceptual pit — that I have fallen into — is thinking that:
“There must have been a Right Path I could have taken
so I wouldn’t have landed in this BOG — but I missed it!”
This idea that taking a better series of turns would have kept us safe puts all the responsibility and blame on our shoulders. I’ve been there! Our daughter Patty had a rare form of cancer — ergo, WHAT DID I DO WRONG????? Or what could I /should I have done differently? Horribly painful . . . and not helpful.
I had to learn that Life itself IS a Bog. Failures or wrong turns are built into it. We just can’t know enough to avoid all possible pitfalls, Indeed, trying to navigate a perfectly safe path — past a certain point — squanders life energy that is better spent living and enjoying TODAY!
My second realization is that a major factor in resilience is the ability to Reset and Respond. This awful thing has happened or is happening. Accept it. Then look around for ways to deal with it, mitigate it, and work around it. Accepting is BIG and Acting is BIGGER. Thankfully the internet has made this possible in ways that I could not have imagined a decade ago.
But the most helpful thing for me, God, is the belief that You love us — all of us! I put my weight on You completely during Patty’s illness. And You supported us all. You didn’t heal Patty. But You have provided me with the amazing assurance that she is “Vibrant and Radiant and Alive and with YOU!”