Thoughts on being seen — and being valued

Posted on March 3, 2012 by a moment with god — Leave a comment

My husband, Kit, giving me a loving look

Good Day God,

Thank You, God, that I have a husband who sees me. I’ve been talking about hearing and being heard. And that is important. But, Kit, sees me, too.

We are both still busy. Probably too busy. But, I am seen by him. Seen as a separate person with quirks and idiosyncratic behaviors.

I think the day he came home and told me he had seen a T-Shirt that said “Normal is Boring” was a turning point. He told me that he had to get it for me — and he did.

So, I suppose, God, that the gift isn’t just being seen but being valued just as I am. To be sure, there is a bit of amusement in his gaze. But, then there might be a bit of that in my eyes, too.

I wish, God, that every husband — well every spouse — could gaze at the other with love, affection and acceptance. It is a truly wonderful thing to be accepted as we are.

I try and remember that, God. I have a tendency to want to push things a little bit closer to “better.” That includes pushing myself. Pushing and pulling spouses, however, is ever so counter productive. You know that God. And You love us just as we are. As we are right now.

Knowing that, feeling that, helps us as we work on loving and accepting ourselves. Once we have lovingly accepted ourselves then compassion can flow so much more freely.

All of this take time, doesn’t it God. But, the closer I get the more I appreciate that the journey it worth it!