Good Morning, God!
Most of us humans like to “go on and on” when talking on certain topics. I sure do. It is as if I get caught in a mental whirlpool — spinning around and around — not able or willing to extricate myself from the topic. And certain topics are, indeed, Hot Buttons.
I do this without really remembering doing it. My selective memory is at work — cleaning up my life!
Ah, but I do remember when others do it. Kit’s dad was famous in the family for Going On and On! I don’t mean retelling good old stories. . . or singing someone’s praises. For me the phrase “Going On and On” means the content is full of judging. It really isn’t pleasant, God. In truth, it’s toxic.
But, for many years, it never occurred to me that I could do anything about it. That’s the trouble with Cultural Roles — when we are IN that sort of box, that is all there is. As I remember, I broke out of that box in a terrible fit of temper. Quite suddenly I snapped! It was clear that this “Going On and On” was Verbal Abuse! And it was VERY CLEAR that it was no longer acceptable to me.
Fortunately, this happened around the time of Budweiser commercials featuring two lizards, Frank and Louie. Louie would be “Going On and On,” griping that frogs, not the lizards, had been selected as promoters of the best-selling beer. Finally good ol’ Frank would sigh and say, “Let it go, Louie. Let it go!”
In our family, this became “Our Phrase” — a humorous way of reminding each other that it was time to stop. And, now we even use it to keep each other from starting. Thank You, God, for Your help with this!