Good Morning, God! Today is my mom’s 95th birthday and I shall be calling her soon. And visiting soon after. Then we will have a small birthday party this evening. She’s a wonderful mother!
A good mother is important as You well know. I think of the story (true or not) about how a greeting card company offered to inmates in a jail free Mother’s Day cards and postage. It was a great success and almost every inmate made use of it. So, the company made the same offer at Father’s Day and got an almost zero response. The moral of that story? Do fathers fail us more often than mothers? Or is it that the jobs differ?
Mothers offer unconditional love. Fathers have the job of preparing the child for the world — standards and rules. Personally, I don’t like rules. And then there is the question of unfairness which comes up when rules are applied. Hard. I remember my father saying: Life IS HARD. Life isn’t supposed to be easy. I found in those words a helpful perspective.
I just read Roald Dahl’s book, Boy. In it he tells stories about life at an English boarding school. Talk about rules! And they were enforced by a sadistic set of teachers and headmasters. I thought as I read it that a lot of world problems were caused by such schools. Schools which plunge boys out of the world of mothers and into the world of men. . . and rules . . . cruelty begetting cruelty.
LIFE IS ABOUT BALANCING. Yes, God, it works best if there is a balance between love and standards. And I suppose that the balance needs to be adjusted for each individual and from moment to moment. TRUE You say.
We don’t do this very well, do we God. YES, You say, BUT YOU LEARN BY DOING AND YOU ARE DESIGNED TO LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND THE MISTAKES OF OTHERS — ALL THE BETTER TO PRACTICE FORGIVING AND ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS.
And we are also designed to LOVE — both mothers and fathers are designed to LOVE. Love AND Rules? Sigh. WITH YOUR HELP, GOD! WITH YOUR HELP!