A Happy Marriage – A Thankful Wife – On Our 51st Anniversary

Thank You, God! THANK YOU!!!

I am married to a GOOD MAN — and I dare say THAT is a Key Component to a Happy Marriage! Actually, Kit is a VERY good man. And I must say, God, I am VERY THANKFUL!

I’m sitting here pondering what goes into a good marriage — besides good “ingredients” and good examples. Well, let me start with the Good Example. My Mother has attended four generations of Golden Wedding Anniversaries: her grandparents , her parents, her own, and then OUR Golden Wedding Anniversary. My Father’s parents celebrated their Golden Anniversary, too. That helps.

But even with a VERY GOOD MAN — one still has to contend with Giant Gender Gaps.

I remember how excited I was when I discovered Deborah Tannen’s books and realized the men and women really are living in different universes! I’m laughing, God! How could something so obvious — take so long to see? Hmmm. I am still being surprised.

Then there is the HUGE MATTER of YOUR HELP, God. Becoming a BELIEVING Christian — confessing I NEEDED Your Help — that meant that Kit didn’t have to bear all the weight of keeping me loved and valued. That was a BIG and HEAVY load off of him. Besides, You made it clear that my job is working with You to recreate ME — not him.

One more thing. Being loved by YOU has given me the courage to speak the truth in love about myself. You helped me to understand that when Kit hurt my feelings I FLASHED to ANGER! I would tell him to GO AWAY! And he would. Then I would be more hurt than ever. With YOUR help I finally confessed that when I screamed GO AWAY what I really wanted as a hug. He heard me. He remembered. And his hugs have saved the day many a time! THANK YOU, God, THANK YOU!